KEEPING IT REAL: 'Little Flower' mindset can sow weeds

KEEPING IT REAL: 'Little Flower' mindset can sow weeds

Another Monday, and more than a million British Columbians head off to work: to earn a living,  pursue careers, provide services for clients, satisfy their own desire to contribute to society and share the stories and challenges of their lives with their closest co-workers. Lisa Reimer, however, is forced to stay home.

From everything I can see, Reimer is no revolutionary, no activist, no troublemaker.  Until a couple of weeks ago, she was a teacher at Little Flower Academy Catholic School intent on only doing those things I’ve outlined above … just living her life,  like every other working British Columbian. 

But Reimer was suddenly told NOT to come to work: the school would cancel her classes, pay out her contract to the end of June and she could complete any marking she had to do electronically from home.

Did she do anythnig wrong? Charged with a crime? Mistreat any kids? Steal school supplies? Get into arguments with management or co-workers? Apparently not.

But she is a lesbian and, so her story goes, after she revealed … I assume with the usual pride of any new parent … that her same-sex partner had given birth to their son, some Little Flower parents found out about it, were and upset, and, she says, she was then dismissed.

The school has said she is on “personal leave” and will be paid to the end of her contract, but has offered little other explanation.

Reimer is considering filing a human rights complaint. I hope she does, and wins. 

Does a private school, club or business have the right to “discriminate” on the basis of its own closely held tenets or values?  The question is far more complex than it may seem, especially for those of us of liberal views, who abhor any discrimination.

But the truth is we live in, and willingly support, a world of discrimination.

Restaurateurs and bar owners regularly choose servers based as much on looks as working ability; retailers and their customers often opt for appearance over produict knowledge; hotels do the same, and so do many office managers--and don’t forget television news.  :)

There are also many, many instances in our society where people “discriminate” for or against others, based on the way they talk, their political bent or even what part of the city (or Metro area) they come from or live in. 

Discrimination in Canada is not illegal: EXCEPT in cases of gender,  race, religion, disability or SEXUAL ORIENTATION.

And, in my view, those areas of human rights protection should be paramount in employment, even in the case of private religious schools or private clubs or private residential communities.  If someone meets all other competency qualifications, discrimination based on their race, gender, physical disability or sexual orientation should NOT be sanctioned by our society. 

Because discrimination affects more than just the victim himself or herself: in Reminer’s case, if her case is as she sets it out, the discrimination succumbs to and even rewards the prejudices of the parents who objected to a homosexual’s mere presence, even if she had done absolutely nothing untoward.  Unacceptable, in my view.

And what makes it even worse, the kids are watching:  it  teaches another generation of Little Flowers that gays are second class, not worthy to teach in their school, even to be avoided and literally sent packing. Unacceptable, again.

If we as a society allow gays (or any other minority) to be portrayed and classified as second rate, then how can we be surprised when someone like Michael Kandola lashes out violently against someone just because he perceives them to be gay?

Kandola was sentenced Friday to 12 months in jail, on top of almost three months already served in custody, for knocking out a gay man in Vancouver’s West End in an unprovoked attack that was accompanied by homophobic slurs.

The violent hatred that Kandola exhibited is often sown in the soil of discrimination and derision.  It is a weed that has to be eradicated from our society.

And it sure looks like Little Flower is a good place to apply a  human rights ruling, so tolerance and understanding can grow there, instead of providing fertile ground for the weeds of discrimination and hate.

Reprinted by permission of Harv Oberfeld. This article first appeared on his blog,  Keeping it Real.

Comments

Doesn't matter

Whatever we may think about it, we don't make the rules in this case. Both parties (spouses) must agree to the annulment for it to be granted. At least, that's my understanding. - fp

Great article.I guess

Great article.I guess teaching people how to act in society is something very important.Sometimes rules are very important not to be broken because by doing that you might do something very bad.Flowers

clarification

Adrian, I appreciate your sentiments. Just to be clear, though: * A heterosexual is someone who prefers an age-appropriate partner of the opposite gender * A homosexual is someone who prefers an age-appropriate partner of the same gender * A pedophile is someone who preys on children. A pedophile may be someone who preys on opposite-gender children or adolescents; same-gender; or both genders. We don't know that the priests involved were homosexuals (if free to pursue relationships with adults if they would actually do so, and with which gender.) We do know they were pedophiles. This is an important distinction, because in some peoples' minds, homosexual = pedophile. That is no more true than heterosexual = pedophile. But the lack of understanding fuels anti-gay paranoia. Thanks for considering.

 Thanks for making this

 Thanks for making this important distinction. I was trying to highlight the historical consequences of the denying of human sexuality. Certainly there is no connection between homosexuality and pedophilia and I didn't intend to imply anything of the sort.--ed.

I hardly know how to speak to

I hardly know how to speak to the issue of a church that has such a disturbing ongoing history with regard to sexual matters. Attitudes like those alleged here have developed alongside the sexual abuse of untold thousands of children at the hands of priests whose minds were twisted by guilt and shame over their own homosexuality. That a school affiliated with such an organization would presume to judge in any way an openly-gay woman who merely wants to do her job is repugnant.--ed.

What were her conditions

of employment when she was hired? If she fully understood that she was to uphold Catholic doctrine, then she did not meet her conditions of employment. If she was heterosexual when she applied and then deemed herself to be gay, it could be argued that she had a duty to inform her employer that she would be unable to uphold her terms & conditions of employment, imho. - fp

 I think it's actually

 I think it's actually illegal in Canada for any employer to discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation. In such a case, there could be no 'terms of employment' specifying sexual orientation.--ed.

Don't ask, don't tell?

Catholic doctrine does not condone homosexuality nor divorce or living together without the sacrament of marriage. If you disagree with Catholic doctrine then one shouldn't be applying to teach at a Catholic school. I don't think that Catholic schools fall into the same category. I think their rights flow from the Constitution under Freedom of Religion. - fp

 It's a complicated issue:

 It's a complicated issue: 'Catholic doctrine' is one thing--the beliefs of individual Catholics are another. There are gay Catholics, of course, who don't believe they are defying a God-given edict against their sexuality. And I'm sure that divorced people teach in Catholic schools. No Catholics I know think homosexuality is grounds for firing, for example. Others would, of course, disagree--ed.

I'm not certain

but if I remember some of my Catholicism, a divorced Catholic must receive dispensation (annulment) from the Pope in order to re-marry in the Church, for example. It's possible that a divorced Catholic teaching at a Catholic School or seeking a position, would need an annulment of the marriage from the Pope. What some Catholics might think in this case is not relevant imho. -fp

 I remember serial woman

 I remember serial woman abuser Frank Sinatra receiving a Pretty iffy 'annulment' from the Pope in the 50s--from the mother of his two children. What's more real--sincere convictions or institutional games? Just a thought...-ed.